. . . . . isn't something you can do by yourself!! Actually - it is found in God's Word (the Bible). It's very simple, yet very profound -
5 “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing." (John 15:5)
20 "For no matter how many promises God has made, they are “Yes” in Christ. And so through him the “Amen” is spoken by us to the glory of God. " ( 2 Corinthians 1:20)
How many times have you made New Year's resolutions - and failed at keeping them? Probably a million times - as have I! But if we have trusted Christ as our Savior - then all the promises of God are for us! And our ability to make changes in our lives depends ONLY on our faith in Him to keep His promises! By ourselves, our plans are doomed to failure. Guaranteed. Always. But He has promised to conform us to the Image of Jesus, His Son - and said (speaking of us as believers) -
13"I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." (Phil. 4:13)
When our dreams line up with His Word - that's what He will do!